Suffering and Pain: March 13,2016

Suffering and pain

Suffering and pain is not unique to an individual. It is something that we all experience in our lifetime. It is the means by which we can choose to learn and grow. The old cliché, “growing pains” actually has a lot of meaning when it comes to our mental, physical, and spiritual health. Sometimes we go through painful situations that lead to tremendous growth in all dimensions of our health.

I memorialized my suffering and pain. I gave myself a trophy for the most suffered. I set it up on the mantle and looked at it everyday. I had convinced myself that I, and only I, had suffered like this. I had been the victim of pain and suffering that no one else would or could understand. I held onto my suffering and pain. I held onto the pain of my relationship break-ups, the death of my mother, my diagnosis, the death of my pets and anything I could hold onto to stay in the victim role.

Once I realized that all suffering and pain comes into our lives to teach us a lesson, I was able to start thinking about it differently. Once I realized that we all suffer, I was able to stop making my pain special. I would not be who I am today, or where I am today, without the experience of the suffering and pain I’ve endured in my life. For that, I must be grateful. Being grateful for the suffering and pain allowed me to see it from a different perspective. Asking myself, what do I need to learn from this painful experience led me down the path of self-awareness and self-healing.   For me, each situation of pain and suffering has turned out to be a lesson in being humble and an opportunity to deepen in wisdom.

According to the bible when Jesus was crucified and placed in the tomb, he stayed there for 3 days. The enlightening moment for me was when he decided to come out of the tomb and head toward the resurrection. We have a choice. We can stay in the tomb or we can come out and make our way toward resurrecting ourselves and bringing self-healing. It’s easy to stay buried in the tomb of our pain and suffering. We can feel trapped there with no way out but we must understand that it is our choice. When we come out of that tomb, we can either choose to head toward the resurrection or back to the crucifixion. Tomb time is necessary and part of the process but we must not stay there.

I hope you will come out of the tomb today and start the process of self-healing. Know that you are special. Know that you are enough. Know that you are divinity and that the one source that created us all, lives in you. Know that you are love and that you are loved.

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17 Replies to “Suffering and Pain: March 13,2016”

  1. Vincent,
    It is great to be a witness to your awakening. So many of us have those trophies sitting on our shelves, or medals that we ware. From our illnesses, to our losses, we tell everyone who will listen. Before you know it it becomes what identifies us, and even deeper, how we identify ourselves. We are far more than what we have lost, and what we have. It is tremendously difficult to recognize that, while we are in the midst of suffering. The fact that you are able to see it in your life allows you to grow beyond it. What you have learned gives you empathy, and allows you to see yourself in others and thereby help them through the tough lessons. There are great things in store for you. Embrace them!
    Peace, Love, and Healing!

    1. Ron,

      You are welcome. I appreciate your support and hope you will enjoy the weekly Sunday blogs.


  2. Vince-

    Keep writing. I look forward to reading your positive message every week. It matters.

    I love you, my friend.

  3. Vince,
    You are an inspiration to me. God is using you to write about transitions your in life. All that you have gone thru. You are inspiration to all of us. Growing pains, relationships, etc….. I appreciate and love what you are doing. It will help us all learn thru your transition of life experiences. Love you, peace be with you✌

    1. Dianna,

      As always, I greatly appreciate your feedback. It really does mean a lot. We can all learn from each other. I am so happy that by sharing my experiences, it is also helping you and others. God is good.


  4. As always Vince your wisdom is both healing and helpful. I know it takes great personal courage to open up and be vulnerable! I commend you and admire you for sharing this journey with us! I love you my friend.

    1. Oh Diana, you are such a great inspiration to me as well. Your spirit and motivation are encouraging. We all have a story to tell. I tell mine for 2 reasons. The main reason being that it helps me. It is a great creative outlet for me to express somethings I’ve learned and somethings I’ve kept inside. The second reason being my hope that others will benefit. We all need each other on this journey. I love and appreciate you.


  5. Amen!! Once again excellent reading Vince. I always read your blog a few times and each time I take away something that helps me in my life! As always I appreciate you and look forward to the next blog!! Growing pains…interesting!

    1. Cedric,

      I am so grateful that you are able to take away something that helps you from my writing. I write for myself but am always hopeful that it will help others too. We can all help each other on this journey through life by sharing our experiences. I appreciate your support.


  6. Gigi Gould
    Vince – You are like a spring blossom slowly but surely opening up into its beauty and magnificence! Thanks for being such an inspiration!

    1. Oh Gigi, thank you so much. Your beautiful words mean so much. You too are an inspiration to many with the all the little kind words and deeds you say and do. Much love.


  7. As I prepare to sell my home of 25 years and move to a smaller place, the pain of letting go is very real. I appreciate your comment that all I need is within me as a gift from God.

    1. Nancy,

      God is our only source and with him being in us, it makes us complete. I too appreciate you and will be thinking of you as you transition into this beautiful new phase of your life.

      Much love,

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