Nothing in common
Have you ever heard the saying, “We have nothing in common?” Growing up as a gay boy in a very rural Virginia town, I always carried the feeling of being the odd ball and having nothing in common with others. I knew of no other gay people in my small town. Being gay was taboo and considered the worst sin ever. I felt very much out of place my whole life. “We have nothing in common.” I’ve been guilty of either thinking or saying that many times in my life. Perhaps you have also. Guilty of saying such things as, “I cannot worship with the Muslims because we have nothing in common.” “I am a Christian.” Or guilty of thinking such thoughts as, I cannot hang out with a certain race, or group of a different culture, because we have nothing in common. The results are we end up separating ourselves from part of God’s creation. How can we be a part of his creation and pull away from the whole?
I found myself standing on my balcony the other day looking down at all the people at the pool. Most of them I know a little about from observation and from living here for about 18 months. Small community. Word gets out. While standing on the balcony I caught myself thinking, I have nothing in common with those people. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. I have everything in common with those people. I decided to wander down to the pool and mingle a bit. I sat with a group of my neighbors. I discovered that like all people, there were some in the group that needed to just talk and be heard. There were some who needed love and attention. There were some who were sad and lonely. There were some who were joyful and full of life. There were some who were talking about their diseases and needed advice. Although one was an atheist, one a republican, one depressed, one with physical ailments, one bipolar, one mentally challenged, and one alcoholic, we all needed each other. We were all still beautiful living beings created by the same source. I found great love and acceptance in the group. No judgment. No arguing over differences. Just good respectful discussion and support.
What an awakening moment for me when I truly realized that we are one with ALL living beings. We all breathe the same air. We all hurt. We all experience sadness, pain, and suffering. We all experience the same emotions. We were all born into this world with a heart, lungs, kidneys, a liver, and all the other organs our temple houses. Our bodies were all created to function the same. Why all the commonalities? Because we were all created by one source and one power. That pretty much does away with the thought process that we have nothing in common. What would happen if we spent less time focusing on our differences and more time appreciating our similarities? More time appreciating the Divine oneness in which we were all created. More time appreciating the inherent greatness inside ALL living beings.
I am thankful to be more aware of this truth. It is my desire to view all living beings as part of me. It is my desire to appreciate ALL of God’s creation. It is my desire to be more aware of the importance of embracing our commonalities in an effort to create a more peaceful world that works for everyone. I would be honored and grateful to have your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you and I’ll see you next Sunday for my Weekly Sunday Blog.
Peace and blessings