Awareness of Reaction: June 10, 2016
Awareness is vital in our lives. Kenneth Cole once said, “To be aware is more important than what you wear.” Being aware of the hundreds of thoughts that enter our mind daily, allows us the opportunity to decide which ones to give energy to. Being aware of the needs of the people around us, allows us an awesome opportunity to be a blessing. Being aware of the many different lifestyles and beliefs around us, allows us another great opportunity to learn, be accepting, be more loving, and be open. Being aware of all the beauty around us, gives us an opportunity to pause and be thankful.
One of the key areas I have chosen to focus on, in my personal life, is being aware of my emotions and feelings and my reaction to those feelings and emotions. It is perfectly normal to experience the full range of human emotions. We all experience frustration, sadness, anger, fear, shame, and guilt. These emotions do not make you less of a human being but instead they make you more connected and more expansive in your awareness and thought process. They leave you with a feeling of being more connected to all of mankind because we all experience the same things. I have found it is important to allow myself to feel these emotions and not resist them. Resisting them allows them to build up inside, and over time they create a heaviness that we carry around with us.
It is not always necessary to react to your emotions and thoughts. When someone cuts you off in traffic, frustrates you at work, or cuts in front of you in a long line, what is your reaction? My reaction has always been to act out on my feelings of anger and frustration. I quickly realized that by reacting, I am giving them control over me. I am no longer in control of myself. It was a life changing moment for me when I realized that no one does anything to me. I used to say, “he/she made me mad.” “He/she upset me.” “They caused the break-up of my relationship.” “He cheated on me.” The truth and realization that NO ONE does anything to me completely changed how I respond to my emotions and feelings. I did it to myself. I chose to be mad. I chose to be angry. I chose to be frustrated. It was my choice. The other person was just being who they are. We must develop the awareness that we are not the victims of what’s happening. Instead see what’s happening as a great opportunity to free yourself from what has always been your normal response.
Wow, what peace I have always found in not reacting. I allow myself to feel the emotion or to have the thought. I recognize this is a normal part of our humanness. I am learning more and more, moment by moment to be still and not react. When I act out on my anger, frustration or other emotions, this creates an imbalance to my inner peace. Allow your emotions to be. Experience your emotions. Feel your emotions. Panache Desai says, “how often in life is it true that the only person in the room who knows you are angry is you?” I will go a step further and say, how often is it that the only person in the room who knows you are frustrated, upset, not feeling well, or sad is you? We all have people in our lives that wear all their feelings and emotions on their shoulder. You know when they are upset, mad, frustrated or have a negative attitude because of their reaction. Remember, no one does anything to you. Ever. You do it to yourself. Starting today I challenge you to feel what you feel, however you choose to feel it, but then take ownership for your response to those feelings by actively being aware of your thoughts and actions at all times.
I set an intention to completely allow myself to feel the emotion without reacting in a negative way. This adds to the peace of our environments and our inner self. Thanks for reading my thoughts. I look forward to seeing you next Sunday for my Weekly Sunday Blog.
Peace and blessings