Who decided that girls wear pink and boys wear blue? Who came up with the idea that we must have ham and potato salad on Easter Sunday? Who decided that one must get married, start a family, and have the house with a white picket fence? Many religions teach that their beliefs are normal and any other belief is unacceptable or not normal. Who actually decided what was normal or socially acceptable?
Do you fit into the mold of what society has decided is the norm?
What happens when you don’t fit into the “norm.”?
Will everything we do in life reflect the values of others? Must everything we do line up with the social norms?
Growing up gay, I never felt like I fit into the social norm. It was a bit isolating. I did not go to my high school prom because it would have been unacceptable to take someone of the same gender with me. I also did not play sports even though society said that the guys play sports and the girls are cheerleaders. What if I wanted to be the cheerleader?
I have been called many names in my lifetime because I did not fit into what others considered to be normal. I have been called weird, sissy, sinner, and names I care not to mention.
We do not need to understand how and why some people choose to express life in a different way than we express life. Your normal may not be someone else’s normal. Again, who says what’s normal? We get to choose what is normal for us based on our internal guidance and our intention to be authentic.
I have found it important to be authentic. To be completely myself even when it does not conform to the social norm as defined by much of society. It took me a while to get to this point. I always felt a need to try and fit into what was considered the norm.
Now I fully understand that it is important for my views to be about peace and full self-expression for all. I embrace the diversity all around me. I want my life to be filled with love and acceptance for all. Just like the snowflakes, we are each our own individual expression of God. No 2 alike.
Are you living a life of authenticity or are you living your life based solely on what some people consider to be the social norm? Share you story with us. I look forward to your feedback and hope you will sign up to follow my weekly blog at: vinceshifflett.com/blog
Until next week, live the life you love.