Mental Wellness Optimal Health Spiritual Wellness

Human Emotions: Do They Control You?

 

There is a myriad of emotions that we all experience from time to time as part of our human experience. Happiness, sadness, loneliness, anger, fear, inner pain, and frustration are some of those emotions. The key to a peaceful, happy life is learning to not let our emotions control us. We are merely inside of ourselves watching the emotions but they are not who we are. I would like to share 4 things that are helping me reign in control of my emotions, keeping in mind that it is a work in progress for me.

  1. Letting Go: I found myself holding onto anger and hurt because someone said something to me that I did not like. I was letting my mind run away with thoughts such as, “Why did she say that?” “I can’t believe she said that to me” or “I can’t believe she acted that way.” “I can’t believe she offended me or disrespected me like that.” I have come to realize that you can watch the mind be neurotic and disturbed but not get involved. The mind runs away with these negative emotions because we give it the power of our full attention. Let it go. Withdraw your attention.

I was holding onto my stories. Those stories of the tragic sudden loss of my mother, how I was mistreated by my father as a child, and the break-up of my 18 year relationship were controlling my emotions and therefore holding me captive to my inner pain. It’s all because I was giving attention to those stories. Telling everyone I could tell. We have all been through pain, suffering, anger, hurt, and all the other emotions. I realized that my story was not unique. By letting my stories go, my wounds are healing. I am no longer giving them life. We can choose to create a new beautiful story in each moment and let the old story go.

  1. Being aware: For me it all started with being more aware of what my thoughts were and how I was feeling emotionally. Now when my mind starts going a mile a minute, I am aware of it and I keep it in check. I don’t try and stop it. I just watch it. I watch the mind talk about how hurt I am. If one is not careful, the mind will constantly drive you crazy over nothing. If you do not want it to be that way, stop giving it energy and attention. When you start to see this crazy talk going on in your mind, just take a deep breath, relax your body and relax your heart. Do not get involved. Just be aware of it and let it go. Don’t play the mind game. What used to hold you down can be what wakes you up if you stay aware.
  2. Prayer and Meditation: Spending time in meditation has allowed me to remain centered in myself. It is what allows me to just watch the mind chatter but not let it affect me. I can relax, practice deep breathing, and let it go. It is the time that I practice silence in an effort to go deep inside and be aware of how I am feeling. It is my time to take inventory and check out what my mind and heart are doing. It is my time to relax and release all emotions that are controlling the way I feel. Avoiding the emotions is not the answer. Shutting down is not the answer. Avoiding the person or situation that cause the negative emotions is not the answer. Relax, release, let go, and express love and gratitude. That is the answer.
  3. Stop The Blame Game: Stop blaming others because you have chosen to feel hurt, anger, pain, or frustration. You have a choice to let it go. It is really nothing. It is insignificant. By constantly blaming, you are giving life and attention to the anger, pain, hurt, and frustration. You are keeping it alive. No one is to blame. 

Ultimately, we are in control to the degree that we are aware and allow ourselves to let go. When we choose to carry the negative emotions around, we only end up hurting ourselves. Wayne Dyer once said, “Do not be offended by anything.” This is a great rule to live by. In the grand scheme of things, is it really worth it? Wouldn’t you much rather be a peace and happy? Show love to those you feel hurt you. Find the lesson and gratitude in that painful experience. In doing so, you will find true inner peace.

I would be honored to have your thoughts and feedback.

Until next week,

Be at peace

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

12 comments on “Human Emotions: Do They Control You?

  1. I love this! I’m learning so much of that this year. I had to go through a lonely and painful phase before understating the process

    Like

  2. Some great points made. It is definitely easy to get caught up in the negative thoughts or emotions. Takes time and practice to control/be aware when they are overtaking you and not let them affect you. Good tips, thanks for sharing!

    Like

    • Paolo,

      Thank you so much for the feedback. You are right, it is easier to get caught up in the negative since it appears to be all around us. It is all about being aware. I appreciate you and your support. Much love to you.

      Vince

      Liked by 1 person

  3. Vince. You are saying what a lot of people are afraid to admit. Bless youl for being transparent.

    Like

    • Donavan,

      When I write, I am writing to myself. It has been very therapeutic for me to express my thoughts in this format. Thank you so much for your kindness and support.

      Vince

      Like

  4. Kellie Dearing

    Love it and very true

    Liked by 1 person

  5. BRODDERICK ROARY

    I used to be controlled by my emotions, a lot of the negative self talk and hold onto hurt, pain of my childhood, failed relationship, the emotional and physical abuse I suffered at the hands of my father. For many years I carried all of that in my spirit, heart and mind until it started to affect my work and interpersonal relationships with my friends. It all came to ahead a few years ago and I decided to seek professional help to work through all that was hindering my life. In therapy I was able to get honest and real with myself learn, stop blaming other for my past hurt and pain, become extremely self aware about my emotions and put in to practice get to the why, of the why, of the why? In essence being courageous and honest of enough to breathe through my emotions, allow myself to feel them and LET THEM GO! Today I celebrate the freedom I have in not giving power to my emotions which are only temporary.

    Like

    • Brodderick,

      We all carry around a lot of emotional baggage. It becomes our comfort blanket like we had as a child. It takes a great awareness, connection to our spirit, and courage to let the baggage go. I am so happy that you have reached a place of knowing. Much love to you.

      Vince

      Like

  6. HI Vincent,
    Wow! Perfect timing for this post. I am trying to let it go and know that I am enough. Love and blessings for you.
    Lisa

    Like

    • Lisa,

      You are enough. Something we all struggle with from time to time. Thinking we need something outside of ourselves to be complete. God already made us whole and complete. We are created in his likeness and image. What more could we ask for.
      I am incredibly grateful for your support and feedback. I know God will continue to wrap you in his arms.

      Vince

      Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: