Am I Who I Say I Am?


Am I who I say I am? Do my actions line up with my words? Do I always fully embody what I write about?

As a writer, I felt it necessary to ponder this question for myself. This pondering lead to a deeper reflection of the question, Am I who I say I am?

I say I am Love. Do my actions reflect love towards ALL beings?

I say I am Peace. Am I peaceful? Do I promote peace at work, home, in my family, and in my everyday life?

I say I am inclusive. Do I really see EVERYONE as equal?

I say I am kind. Do I practice kindness with EVERYONE I see?

I say I believe. Do I let go of the fear and just trust?

I say I want a monogamous relationship. Am I willing to commit to one?

I say I am happy and fulfilled but am I really?

In my writing I have more recently began to share more personal things about my life including my sexual orientation. All in an effort to be who I say I am.  But it goes much deeper than that as evidenced by the questions to myself in the previous paragraph. I want to be a doer of my word. I want to practice what I preach. But do I?

This one thing I do know. My actions never line up with my words 100% of the time. Does anyone’s?

Perhaps the best I can do is to be more mindful of what I say, in an effort to do and be just that. I have the right intentions but there are challenges along the way that I allow to veer me away from those intentions. Then I become someone different from who I say I am.

When I write, I am actually writing to myself realizing that the things I write about are things I need more work on. They are things I need to be more conscious of. I am a work in progress and would never pretend to be anything else.

The mission of what I say through my writing is: To Create Change and Stimulate Self-Healing.Key word here is self. I have been incredibly blessed that it has also created change and stimulated self-healing in many of you as evidenced by your feedback. For that I am deeply grateful.

Writing actually increases my awareness of what I say. I will continue to try to be what I say. It is my desire to be the same person at home, at church, at work, around family, friends, and in my everyday life. I recognize that to be anything else is a bit hypocritical.

Are you who you say you are? It is not so much about the words as the action. We’ve all heard the saying, “Actions speak louder than words.”

I will leave you with a Japanese quote.

Many people have 3 faces. The first face you show the world. The second face you show your close friends and family. The third face you never show anyone. It is the truest reflection of who you are.

Until next week,

Be Good, Do Good. If we “Do good” we become our actions.

12 Replies to “Am I Who I Say I Am?”

  1. Love this, these are the FACTS…learning and reclaiming my Time..😉😎😘

  2. Very interesting and mind provoking blog Vince.
    No one is perfect or can do everything right. Life is a learning curve, we learn from our parents and practice what we have learnt. Where we don’t know is where we may possibly go wrong or even right. The day you stop learning is the day you might as well pack up and go to your grave.
    In reference to the brilliant Japanese quotation, that is very true. However, in 2018 I would add a 4th “face”, our social media face, where some of us become our ‘alter ego’s’ and pretend to be someone we’re not. We are living in an invisible world where we can have friends that we will never see and who will never know any different from what is portrayed on social median.
    As always a fascinating read.

    1. Yuri,

      As always your response is very thought provoking for me.I have over 4000 friends on social media. Most I will never have the beautiful opportunity to meet as much as I’d love to. You are also right about people portraying something different on social media than who they really are. That is what inspired me to ask myself,”Am I Who I Say I Am.?

      Thanks for your awesome beautiful response. Although we’ve never met, I love you my friend.


  3. Good morning sir this was very helpful to me on something I had a situation with someone. I wished I had read this before I verbally said what I said to them but, it was true in what I said to them sometimes people just don’t have anything good to say they say anything.
    This really helpful to me .

    1. Treviore,

      Thank you so much for your feedback. I think we all can be more aware of trying to be true to ourselves and being authentic. Be who we say we are. Thanks as always for your amazing support.


  4. Love this! Your writings always inspire thoughts and conversations with me, my friends and family. I, like you, am a work in progress. Thank you for what you do.

    1. Shaun,

      What can I say? You are a constant support and I love you. It has always been my hope that my writing will encourage conversation and dialogue. Thank you for sharing. Hope to see you soon.


  5. we all fall short, but the healing blood of Jesus is there for us. I LOVE you.

    1. Nancy,

      You are so right. We all fall short. The good news is, theres a lesson in the shortness.
      Thanks as always for sharing.


  6. That article was so on point. I think we all as a people struggle through life emotionally, the true nature is how we deal with it and all it entails. Through everyday life we all seem to have coping mechanisms to help us deal with things,and we often think they are good,until they are viewed from someone else’s perspective. We then,often realize how flawed they really are;as for myself,I am grateful for your positive aspirations, which often get me through the day.with a bit of sunshine. THX Vince

    1. Redgie,

      As always, thank you so much for your response. You are so right. Our perception of the way we deal with things may not be others perception.

      Kind regards,

  7. I really enjoyed this BLOG Vince. It was very insightful and healing in many ways. My “walk” for the last 4yrs has been to live these principles and SLCA, Mankind Project and my volunteer work has really kept me accountable. Great Blog!!

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