If one believes the notion that we are constantly changing, then it leads to the question, “What are you becoming?” Even though I am 56 years old, I still find myself occasionally wondering what I want to be when I grow up. Funny, right?
When I asked myself, “What am I becoming”, I am referring to my character. In other words, What kind of person am I becoming? I think it is a good question to periodically ask oneself. I believe with each passing moment, we are each becoming. Becoming more loving. Becoming more annoyed. Becoming angrier. Becoming more joyful. Becoming more aware. Becoming something.
What are you becoming?
Becoming implies it’s an ongoing process. Therefore, how does one develop character? How does one become? It certainly doesn’t happen over-night or instantaneously.
It starts with the intentional repeating of the character traits you want to exemplify. It takes training your character to become what you want to become. In other words, if you want to become kindness, you must repeat acts of kindness over and over. If you want to be love, you must show love over and over. When you find yourself becoming the lead gossiper among your friends, co-workers, or family, be aware and decide to become peace instead.
Reflecting back on my life, I have grown so much in the area of becoming. I used to be quick to react and respond. I have practiced more listening and stillness because that is who I want to become. I used to be more judgmental of people who were not like me. I have practiced more kindness and love towards all because that is who I want to be.
It all starts in the brain. Your brain has is a dense network of many different pathways. It sends messages back and forth millions of times every second. When you practice something, you are creating a new pathway. Walking back and forth over that new pathway creates a deeper trail. On the other hand, neglecting that pathway, will cause it to fade. Walking that pathway of kindness leads to a character of kindness. Walking that pathway of love and acceptance leads to a person with a strong character of love.
What are you becoming? For example, if you proclaim Christianity, are you becoming more Christ-like?
It would be easy in today’s world to become angry, upset, jaded, and worried. There seems to be a lot of hatred and confusion exacerbated by our current political environment. Despite all this, we each have a choice as to what we are becoming.
It is my intention to continue to become love and not hate. Peace and not war. Kindness and not cruelty, harshness or inhumanity. Honesty and not deceitfulness. What I am becoming has nothing to do with another’s behavior. I am responsible for only my character. I am solely responsible for what I become.
Again, I ask what are you becoming? I look forward to your feedback as you ponder this question for yourself.
Until next time,
Become all things beautiful
Vince is a Critical Care Registered Nurse, Published Writer, and Columnist living and loving in Atlanta, Georgia. Enter your email address to receive his weekly educational, inspirational, and thought provoking work straight to your inbox. You can also follow him on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and Twitter. Your support and feedback are deeply appreciated.