SEX: Is it Important?

fullsizeoutput_1f06It seems I have written a lot about sex and relationships in the past 3 years. It was such a taboo subject growing up so now I realize the importance of talking about it more. It is the big pink elephant in the living room that no one wants to talk about yet it impacts us all.

I am constantly intrigued by the number of my readers that reach out to me with issues in their relationship because of sex or the lack thereof. So much so that I felt compelled to address it again and share my thoughts and experiences in an effort to create dialogue that leads to healthier relationships.

So, sex. It is important?

Sex is very much part of our being. People have sex to feel desirable and attractive as well as to feel pleasure and feel alive. It is important for maintaining a vital aspect of human functioning and is used as a way to achieve closeness with your partner as well as to please them.

Sex facilitates bonding and feelings of intimacy with your partner. This type of connection does more than make you feel warm and fuzzy. It actually reduces anxiety and boosts overall health. It has been shown to decrease stress and lower the risk of cancer and heart attacks.

Human interest in sex is not a matter left to chance but more a built-in imperative. Survival of the species depends on it.

So, what happens when the sex dies in a relationship?  

Many people turn to cheating, hiding, and having affairs. Is it normal for the sex to die or become much less frequent? I would say yes. Therefore, it becomes important to be aware of that and have healthy conversations with your partner about ways to fulfill your sexual needs. In my experience, having an open honest conversation is certainly healthier than the deceit, cheating, hiding and secret affairs. Having a conversation is also healthier than pretending everything is fine.

Sex is a normal human desire. Stop trying to pretend it doesn’t matter. So many of you are reaching out to me in sexless relationships. I had a man reach out to me last week to say, “I haven’t had sex in 3 years.” He has been married for 7 years. He expressed love for his partner but was troubled about the lack of intimate connection. It is essential for overall well-being.

How is your sex life? Are you fulfilled? When is the last time you had sex with the one you love?  The physical and mental benefits have been well researched and proven. It is certainly not the most important thing in a relationship however it is an important aspect of our being.

It can be one of the most difficult topics to discuss but can ultimately bring couples closer together. Have the conversation today. Be honest with yourself. Start living a more fulfilled life in every area of your life including your sex life. The key is to have the conversation.

Much love,




Hi, I’m Vince. I am a Critical Care Registered Nurse and Author. Welcome to my site. On this site you will be provided inspirational, educational, motivational and thought provoking articles. It is my mission to have this information help you achieve Optimal Health in your  Physical Health, Spiritual Health, and Mental Health. My ultimate goal is to create change and stimulate self-healing. I would love to have your support by entering your email address on this site to receive my monthly articles. I look forward to your feedback.


6 Replies to “SEX: Is it Important?”

  1. Your words is like medicine to so many souks that need healings, you are kind and always out to be help to people that need help. Thanks for the latest topic on sex which a healthy topic, you made me realise more that you only make good sex with the one you love and the connection between the two of you become more powerful. I hope all single people will have someone in the future to be with and enjoy healthy sex. Love u

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