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What’s Under The Rug?

I’m quite sure we’ve all heard the saying, “sweeping it under the rug.” As a matter of fact, most of us are probably guilty of doing just that. I know I am. What’s under your rug? I guess it’s just another way of saying, “What are you hiding?”

I remember as a kid when I was asked to sweep the kitchen floor, I would sweep under the rug what I could not get up in the dust pan. My mother, being the super clean woman, she was, decided to check after me one day so she lifted up the rug. There she found all the crumbs I had been sweeping under the rug. From that point on, she decided to just take the rugs up before I started sweeping. That brings me to another saying I’m sure you’ve heard. “Everything that is in the dark will eventually come to light.” All the stuff I was sweeping under the rug in the kitchen was eventually discovered.

Are we all hiding something under the rug? Do we all have secrets? What are the things in your personal life that you’ve chosen to sweep under the rug as opposed to addressing?

Addressing the issues is more work. Sweeping them under the rug doesn’t make them go away. It just temporarily hides them out of site. Doing the work to address the issues will ensure the area under the rug is nice and clean like the area outside of the rug. Addressing the issues instead of hiding them will keep the internal self and external self in alignment with each other.

What are you hiding inside? Are you laughing on the outside and crying on the inside? Are you pretending to be something on the outside while all along a different you on the inside? Does your inside represent what’s under the rug?

I used to always hear, “there are skeletons in everyone’s closet?” I tend to think there is also dirt and crumbs under everyone’s rug. But what would happen if we decided to keep it clean under the rug? Metaphorically speaking, what would happen if we decided to not hide things under the rug and keep secrets. But instead to clean out the skeletons in our closet and live a life of authenticity, transparency and honesty.

I grew up hiding shit. Spider webs all over the skeletons in my closet. It was filthy under my rug. Secrets lead to sickness. In an effort to be our best self and live a life of optimal spiritual, physical and mental health, perhaps we should address the crumbs under the rug. Once and for all, take the necessary steps to clean them out so the inside is as clean as the outside. When company comes over, we can be assured that the whole house is clean. Even under the rug.

It is my intention to not hide anything in my life but to instead be my true self. If that true self at the moment is depressed and sad, then so be it. I can work to change that if I don’t try to sweep it under the rug and pretend it doesn’t exist. If my true self at the moment is happy and blissful, then awesome. I will bask in it.

Have an awesome week everyone. Take a moment to evaluate what your inner self is feeling like. What’s on the inside? What’s under your rug?

As always, I look forward to your feedback and am deeply grateful for the existence of each of you.

Vince

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Recovery and Relationships: Should Newcomers Wait?

Jeff Vickers is a new author, copywriter and content writer. 

After a 30-year battle with addiction, Jeff was transformed by embracing the power of recovery. A self-proclaimed, “sober enthusiast,” his passion is helping people grow in their sobriety.  

After becoming fascinated by the power of recovery mottos, Jeff looked for books on the subject. Finding none, he decided to write one himself. The result is a series entitled, “Sober Slogans.” The first book of the series, “Recovery Mottos We Love,” available now on Amazon! 

Jeff loves to write wearing his favorite Star Wars pajamas, while listening to Damien Escobar. When he is not writing, Jeff spends time binging on old episodes of “Shark Tank,” with his partner, Sara. 

Aside from being excited about the release of his first book, Jeff says, “I’m excited about getting married soon.”  

He is currently working on the second book of the series, “Sober Slogans.” 

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What is Spirituality?

What is Spirituality?

Spirituality has been defined by many but what does it actually mean? For some, spirituality is going to church every Sunday morning and bible study every Wednesday evening. For others, spirituality has absolutely nothing to do with the brick and mortar building we call the church.

Each person must find their own individual spiritual connection however best works for them. In this article, I will take a few minutes to share my thoughts on spirituality simply as food for thought. As always, take what resonates with you and leave the rest. 

How would you define spirituality? Pause here and think about it for a minute. 

I believe spirituality is compassion. It is inclusivity, kindness, and love. Spirituality is connection. Connection to the internal. Connection to the infinite field of energy that surrounds us all.  

Spiritual is not something you become. Conversely, it is something you already are. It can be challenging at times to walk and move in that spiritual space. Being able to act and react from that spiritual space when someone pisses you off, cuts you off in traffic or stirs up messy drama, all comes down to awareness.

Spirituality is awareness. Awareness of our thoughts and actions as well as our internal and external reactions. Without awareness, there is no real connection. We tend to just truck along allowing our automated subconscious thoughts and actions to drive us instead of being connected to our spirit and allowing it to be our guide. I am certainly guilty. 

The spiritual space is the dimension beyond our physical space. For me, the spiritual space has little to do with the actual physical place. I believe it is a space of awareness, connection, compassion, love, kindness and inclusivity as mentioned before. When you are able to come from your spiritual space, you are tapping into your true authentic self. Anything else tends to be ego based as opposed to the true self.

How do we stay connected to Spirit? How do we stay in that spiritual space?

Your spiritual being, just like your physical and mental being, must be nurtured. This makes a consistent spiritual practice essential. Below are some examples I have found helpful when I actually practice them. The minute I stop practicing them, I drift further and further away from that spiritual space and my actions/reactions reflect just that. It’s as if the electric cord to the lamp gets unplugged and I am left in the dark.

Hopefully you will find some of the following things helpful to keeping your lamp plugged in and shining bright. The list is certainly not inclusive and again, one must find what what feeds and nurtures their spiritual being. 

  • Daily meditation (Create Space)
  • Silent time (Create Time)
  • Walk in Nature
  • Inspirational Music
  • Yoga
  • Affirmations
  • Meaningful time with close friends
  • Reflection
  • Journaling

Plug into your spiritual space.  Stay aware in an effort to walk in a place of abundant peace. Remain compassionate, loving, kind, and inclusive regardless of the situation. Again, it is work but the reward is priceless. 

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Vince

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You Already Are

During a recent conversation with my best friend Greg, he said to me, “But you already are.” That was a light bulb moment for me. One of many I’ve experienced during our conversations. “But you already are.”

What are you searching for? You already are. That which you seek, you already are. What are you trying to achieve? What are you trying to become?

It seems I’ve spent a great deal of my life trying to become not really realizing that I already am. 

My need to become and over achieve has been both good and bad. It all stems back to my need for validation that started in my early childhood. As a result of my gay lifestyle, I always felt a need to prove myself because my lifestyle was seen as abnormal, a disease, a demon, and something totally unacceptable by society. Being gay was seen as less than. Therefore, I felt as if I needed to show everyone that I wasn’t less than by achieving great things in my life.  

I always felt I had to work a little harder to show that I wasn’t abnormal. 

This drive to achieve and become has taken up much of my mental space. I am finally starting to ask myself, who am I becoming for? Who am I achieving for? 

What’s the secret to happiness? What’s the secret to contentment? What’s the secret to being in the moment and knowing that you already are? 

The answer lies between your ears.  

Our mind can be our worst enemy or our best friend. Knowing you have the power to choose can be life changing to the degree you actually believe it. I admit, I struggle with believing that I already am. I struggle with believing that I am enough. I’ve been in this life for 58 years and have been trying to work out its riddle for about 50 of those years. 

I recently went back and looked in my high school senior memory book where I found that I had written down my future goals. My goals at that time were to become a registered nurse and a professional piano player for an infamous gospel group. I achieved both. Nothing wrong with achieving but it’s also important to pause and appreciate what you already are in this very moment. 

I feel I have spent so much time looking into the future that I often missed what was right in front of me at any given moment. 

Although I achieved the goals I set for myself in my high school memory book, it wasn’t enough. It’s never enough. I still find myself always trying to be. Putting a lot of pressure on myself as opposed to just stopping to appreciate what I already am. 

I also find that I am always trying to change something instead of being okay with what is. In the winter, I find myself saying, “I’ll be so glad when summer gets here.” In the summer I say, “OMG, this heat.” “I can’t wait until winter.” Always trying to change the time. At work I find myself rushing the time saying, “I can’t wait until 7pm.” Always looking ahead missing the now. Missing the moment. Never completely satisfied. 

Be where you are. When your mind starts to drift and dwell on what you should be doing, bring it back to what you are doing right now. When the mind starts to wander off with thoughts about what you should be, bring it back to what you already are and give thanks for that. 

The lesson for me in all of this is learning more about unbecoming as opposed to becoming. I am learning that there is no need to actually become because I already am. I give thanks for that. I am working on unbecoming all the things others have told me that I am and I believed them. You are enough. Believe it.

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Blessings,

Vince

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Pain and Suffering: Stop Running

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